It's Not Easy....

It's not easy.... being a farmer's wife. Many times they don't answer their phones, you have no idea what field they are in, and have no idea when to expect them home. We spend a lot of our time during planting and harvest worrying about them (well I can't speak for Marissa but I know I worry, constantly). I try and make myself feel better by taking him lunch on a daily basis (so that hes fed of course, but to also put my mind at ease). They work so hard during these times, I don't want him to worry about me worrying about him, so I hide it through his stomach.

Not only am I worrying about him in the field, I am also worrying about the kids, and how much they will miss him. Its hard some days as he could go a week before he actually has a chance to sit with them for longer than 5 minutes. They are always asking when he will be home, or even better, if they can go and join him (which is their favourite thing to do). Rileyn, Ryker (and Bella and Harvest) are seasoned now, but it will be hard for the baby (ies) this year, as he (they) are starting to recognize the time of day daddy gets home, but soon, all of that will change.

It is also hard going from two parents parenting, to one, then back to two, then back to one. You find you finally get into a groove of parenting, and then spring rolls around and you're a married single mom with a husband who is never home. You are the 'bad guy' and the 'good guy' and its not easy being both. I feel like the kids get sick of me. Not to mention, the lack of adult interaction I have during the week, I feel like all I do is interact with mini humans all the time, and I crave for an adult conversation.

When I first became a farmwife and mom it was hard not having someone around who understood. I felt distant with a lot of my friends and its hard not having that person to talk to who actually understands the life. I am happy to have found Marissa, who understands this crazy whirlwind of a life. It just happened we had kids the exact same age, and then by some sort of luck, we got pregnant with the babies, 2 weeks apart. It has been so nice being able to talk farmwife and mom with her, especially during the 'hard times' of planting and harvest.

We only have a few weeks (if that) left with our farmers, we are trying to spend as much time with them before, and that's part of why we haven't been blogging as much as we would like to (and it may also be because Marissa and I have a ton of posts in limbo, that I think we are both having a hard time pushing the publish button on). We promise to blog more.. so keep an eye out for it.

So, ya, It's not easy being a farmer's wife, but I wouldn't trade it for anything.

B.

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